"What are those for Anne?"
"Oh, you know, for the ladies. Ha ha. You know how we love to eat while we chat."
Around 2 or 3 in the afternoon the mother will join her friends outside at a table and add her tray of delights to the table. The possible selection might include cake, some fried vegetable that you can eat with your hands, nuts, sunflower seeds, sarma ( rice filled grape leaves), and of course cay (turkish tea).
I live in a site, pronounced (see-tay). It has a gaurded entrance, three large apartment buildings inside, the parking lot, a small play structure with swings and slides, a small soccer court, a beautiful pond and fountain area surrounded by pretty flowers and bushes, and several tables and benches that are shaded. They way it is set up fosters a community feeling. All the children play together whether they like it or not. The adults know eachother. The ladies who don't work outside of the home enjoy eachother's company daily. It's satisfying to observe these people stay true to who they are. Turkey is drifting westward every minute. I hate to see it happening. This morning on my run I passed two young men who were engrossed in one of their cell phones' features. I have a cell phone and so does my husband. But I never pull it out unless it's ringing. Never. Especially if I'm walking by one of the most pleasant morning views of the city. Anyway, when Ataturk was in charge of this country he prohibited many things in order to make it a secular state. One of them was the traditional religious dress that Turkish people wore daily.
This fez was banned through the Hat Law in 1925. Shame. Since then Turkey has been consumed with a push pull relationship with the West. Turkey is full of Muslims yet Turkey wants to be part of Europe and the West. How can this happen without completely renouncing who you are? Embracing Europe means permitting everything European into your country. If I were Turkey I would say "No! No! Nooooooooo! Stop now!!!!!" My biggest fear is that if this does happen, Turkey will lose that genuine community feeling that other countries try to fabricate by creating shopping malls and such.