I believe that ‘carpe diem’ should
characterize every day of your life whether it be lounging on your couch
reading, making dinner, or skiing down a very steep mountain with your clothes
off (for some people that is fully living). Anyway, last year I wanted to read
more books. I reached my goal of 25 books and even exceeded it. 27. In addition,
I also listened to 2 audiobooks. Yes, I’m proud of myself. The books I read
left me with a couple of byproducts ranging from personal superiority to guilt.
I’ll discuss these resulting feelings briefly in the following paragraphs and
then propose a twist on 2021’s reading goals.
Some of the books were books I read for
classes and were considered classics or must-reads to understand Russian
literature or life or whatever. Reading those gave me a sense of superiority,
which most people need to deny they like feeling. Come on people! Who reads Crime
and Punishment and doesn’t feel a little bit awesome? Getting through some of
those books was tedious. A Day in the Life of Ivan Denisovitch rewarded me with
one lone notch on my belt and no desire to ever even talk about the book. Many
people laud the book and its writer. I thought it was a terrible read. I’ve
read other accounts of camp life, specifically If This is a Man by Primo Levi,
and it was a beautiful read. I actually wanted to read it. Solzhenitsyn’s book
made me not want to wake up in the morning. Not because the content was so
disturbing, but because there was no flow. I felt like I was paddling a huge
raft upstream through class 5 rapids. The other novels I read by Russian
authors made me feel pretty superior, but they also left me with the desire for
more. What I’m saying is that I’m a sucker for depressing novels. They leave me
with a clean feeling, the opposite of how you feel when you eat too much cotton
candy.
On the flip side, some of the books
I read, I’m embarrassed to say, left me with that crummy feeling of
self-loathing. I’d compare it to how I feel when I walk by a ton of beggars on
the side of the road and tell them I have no money to spare, and then I go pig
out at the McDonald’s when I’ve already eaten an hour before. In addition to that
feeling, I also can’t even remember the names of the characters or anything
distinctive about the story. The books I speak of are in the clean romance
genre. Proper Romance, they state on the front cover. Is there really a proper
way to experience romance? I obtain these little snippets of self-indulgence
from my mother-in-law. Her sister and she read them and then she kindly passes
them along to me. So, I read three of them this year. Here are their titles:
Promised, The Lady and the Highwayman, and Rakes and Roses. I think I have an
addictive personality. I won’t put these books down once I start them. I
learned that about myself the previous year when I read more of them. So, in
2020 I only took them on vacations so I could read them in the hotel because I
had more free time. This made it possible for me to ignore my husband and neglect
my kids. I knew this. And then my husband started calling the books Woman Porn.
This led to an argument because in my culture, being accused of indulging in porn
is shameful. To summarize, I had to defend myself and the outcome of the
argument was in no longer reading the genre. As a result, not only am I a Mormon
who doesn’t drink caffeinated tea, coffee, or alcohol, I also abstain from
drugs, tobacco, and Woman Porn in the form of Proper Romance.
I’d now like to delve into the noble
reasons for which I read books. Lessons I need to learn that are learned by the
characters, meaningful quotes that float around in my subconscious, characters
that I wish I knew in real life, or places that wish I could see, and an
excellent compendium of research about a subject. When I read a book I consider
good, I’m left with at least one of these products. Something I can take with
me in life. If it can stand the test of time in my brain, then it is forever
placed in my memory as a good book. I must tell you that my memory is quite weak.
Maybe that’s why I can’t remember the names of the characters in the Proper Romances,
or in any book for that matter. But I remember having a feeling about
something. If I read a quote in a book that stands out to me, I will probably
not remember what it was, but I will remember that I read it in a certain book,
and know where to go to find it. My memory is good enough to remember how I
felt about a book. Kind of like when you meet people briefly at a party. Either
you like them and wouldn’t be sad to know them better, or you didn’t like them
or just wouldn’t go out of your way to spend more time with them. Eventually
the books that didn’t leave an impression drop out of my memory forever until I
don’t remember even reading them. Here are some short notes on each book that I
have placed in my ‘good’ category.
-Eugene Onegin by Alexander
Pushkin. Without the guidance of my Russian literature professor, I probably
wouldn’t have enjoyed this story at all. The description of the landscape and
nature was crystal clear, and the relationship between Tatyana and Onegin is
entertaining. It’s basically a story of a girl recognizing her worth and
standing up for herself. The flimsy person of Onegin is nothing to be admired from
my standpoint, and very boring. I love how she shatters him in the end.
KaPOW!!!!!
-Anna Karenina by Leo Tolstoy. I had
preconceived ideas about this book because I saw the movie, which I was not
impressed with. I learned that it is impossible to participate in the taboos of
your culture and expect to be accepted socially. If you have a personality that
requires social acceptance, don’t commit taboos. You’ll end up killing
yourself. It made me grateful for the culture I live in now.
-Woodswoman by Anne LaBastille. I
remember having a desire to live alone out in the wilderness because I love
nature and I love testing my abilities to see how much I can do. I read this
book because I thought I’d see what my life would have been like if I had
chosen a different path. The lesson I took from this book is that if you decide
to be a zealot about living in the wilderness, you’ll die alone. From what I
know about her, she gave up some relationships because she wanted to have a
certain style of life. Her lifestyle was more important to her than the people
she could have loved. And she died of Alzheimer’s in a nursing home, alone.
-Empire Falls by Richard Russo. I
read this book because it takes place in Maine and it won the Pulitzer Prize. It
turned about to be an excellent story about people that were stuck. It
resonated with me because sometimes I feel stuck in life. The protagonist is
very average, but they way he confronts his normalcy and his stuck-ness in
favor of his daughter is exemplary. Living an average life, loving the people
you’re with, in the same place and never moving, seems really hard, but the
author brings out how right it feels to do so.
-East of Eden by John Steinbeck. The
gifts of this book are twofold for me. First, the location description is special
to me because I grew up near the Central Valley in California. I know how the
sun feels and the dirt looks, sounds, and smells. Second, there are people who
are very, very different in this world. Kathy is one of those. Evil. When I
think of appealing to a person’s humanity, I ask, “What about Kathy?” The same
methods don’t work with her or people who are different like that. I often
wonder if I’ve met people like her and just didn’t know it.
-The Fire Next Time by James
Baldwin. With the Black Lives Matter movement happening, I felt like I should
read some Black American authors. I chose James Baldwin because he lived and
loved Istanbul, like me. What did I take from his writings? Well, I basically
need to read more because I have no idea what is going on as a White lady who
doesn’t have that many Black friends. There is a lot of anger among Blacks. The
fire referred to is the fire that’s gonna fall on the Whites. Also, I did
appreciate Baldwin’s hope that America can repair itself instead of breaking
into two nations: Black and White.
-Silent Spring by Rachel Carson. I
don’t read science writers much because I’m not a science person, but Carson is
a biologist with a gift for writing. Her descriptions of the Great Basin make
me feel wistful and nostalgic. This is one author I would like to meet in
person. She must have been uncommonly courageous to write such a condemning
account in the world of her day.
-One Thousand Gifts by Ann Voskamp.
I saw this book recommended by a person I don’t even know on Facebook. It
looked like something I’d find in a Deseret Book store. The author is not Mormon,
but she is a religious Christian. She is also a mother of six? and homeschools
them. I found her writing tedious to read, but the message useful. Very useful.
Though this is a book I would never choose to read normally, I thought it would
be a good exercise to read something that I didn’t really want to read. I’m a
bit stubborn and set in my ways. Reading this book helped me sift through the
writing that I didn’t like, through to the message.
-The Second Chance Club by Jason
Hardy. I never really understood the purpose of parole and probation until I
read this book. Did you know that it costs American taxpayers an average of $33,000
to jail a person for a year? And an average of $4,000 to put them on parole or
probation? Now I understand why it isn’t good for Americans to simply seek to
put all offenders straight into jail. Obviously there are some offenders that
are criminals and very dangerous to society. But the ones that aren’t violent
or harmful, can be disciplined and helped in other ways. I learned so much
about the difficulties of helping people out of drug addiction, homelessness,
and gangs, and how important it is to donate to organizations that seek to
rehabilitate these offenders and give them services they so very much need.
-White Fragility by Robin DiAngelo.
My place of employment encouraged its employees to read this book and join a
book discussion. We were monetarily reimbursed for our time and given a free
copy of the book. I’m glad I participated. It helped me to know how to do my
part in recognizing in what ways I am racist. I didn’t really like the voice of
the author, but if I were her, and I had to talk to a bunch of people who thought
they weren’t racist over and over again, I’d probably dispense with any
expressions of compassion as well (meaning compassion for Whites).
-The Bristlecone Book by Ronald M.
Lanner. I picked this book up at the visitor’s center at Great Basin National
Park last fall. I learned all about Bristlecone Pines. They are the oldest trees
on the planet. Learning about the features that contribute to their longevity
was fascinating.
My reasons for reading are
self-serving. I used to see it as a noble pastime. As a child, I’d never heard
anyone ever say that reading was a waste of time. But after reading so many
books this year, and focusing on a specific number goal, I realize there are
different approaches one can take to customize the results. I reached my number
goal. Great! But as I mentioned in my previous paragraphs, I felt superiority
when I read classic literature, guilt when I read Proper Romances, and a deep fulfillment
when I read books that left me messages that I could take with me. I don’t want
to read books to appear superior to others, nor do I want to read books that
leave me feeling guilty that I’ve wasted 20 hours of life. Rather than repeat
the same goal, but with a higher number, in 2021, because I seriously doubt I’ll
have more time, I will set my goals with non-numerical results in mind. For
each book I read, I will create a work of art that stems from ideas in the
book. I’m not much of an artist, but I like art, so I think this will motivate
me to do more of it. 2021 will signal the end of my conspicuous consumption of
books. Happy New Year!