So my kids don't conform to the cookie cutter mold for turkish preschool. They now come home early from preschool. Listen to this, a normal day of preschool can start from anywhere between 8-9 in the morning to 5-6 in the afternoon. That's a possible 10 hours in preschool! It's impossible for me to believe that any non working mother would want this for her child. However, if I was a working mother I would gratefully place my children in this kind of preschool. They get fed three times. Not just sandwiches and chips, but real food. Lentil soup, meatballs, in season fruit, green beans, dry beans with salami, baked chicken, pasta, manti (turkish ravioli), rice, and tons of other dishes that I couldn't describe because I don't know enough turkish. Anyway, they get cleaned 50 million times a day. They get worried about if they fall down. They get coddled. All the attention you would want your child to have while you were gone would be given to them. Despite all these redeeming qualities, I would rather have my children home with me. I take them out at 2 each day. I know that my sometimes grumpy voice isn't as nice as all the cooing that they hear at school, but at least I get to see them be free for a while and know that they are still mine. I love to see them run and jump and get dirty and scream! (outside the house of course) As for the cookie cutter reformation of my children, I don't know if it will ever happen. My children hit other kids. Yes, I am a mother of preschool bullies. They're different than elementary school bullies. Anyway, I take them home early because the school thinks that perhaps I can do something to change their behavior at school. Well, I can't remedy the fact that my kids don't understand turkish and are slightly violent even at home. I really feel for their teachers. I hate to cause anyone else extra work.
So here's my dilemma- My oldest child would be happy to be home with me, but he's severely shy and extremely hyper active. I feel that he should spend some time with other kids and people to foster social growth. We lack family and visits from other children so I feel this is necessary right now. My middle child is very social and less hyper and actually listens better, eats better, and naps better at school than he does at home. He also loves all the attention he gets at school. When should a child most be home with their mother? When they hate their preschool but need to learn to be social -or- when they already are socially healthy and don't need that strength?